“It doesn’t *have* to be a punishment. ;)”
Mister Spank
In this comprehensive guide, we’ll explore everything you could ever want to know about this controversial practice.
As an adult, spanking can be viewed as a form of reward rather than punishment, as long as it is consensual and done within the context of erotic play. This is often referred to as “erotic spanking,” which involves striking the buttocks, thighs, breasts, or other fleshy parts of the body with hands or tools. According to pleasure coach Tyomi Morgan, erotic spanking is a type of consensual impact play that can be enjoyable for those who are interested in it.
Are you a spanker or spankee?
why do we think spanking is hot?
According to an expert, spanking can cause the release of certain chemicals in the brain that create a pleasurable experience, despite the initial pain. These chemicals include dopamine, adrenaline, oxytocin, and endorphins. Some individuals may even find the sound of spanking to be sexually arousing.
How do you tell your partner you want to try it?
For example, if you want to communicate your desire for erotic spanking to your partner, sending a text message with a GIF or video of consensual spanking can help them understand what you’re interested in.
Sometimes, certain sexual activities like spanking can be misunderstood or equated with abuse, so using visuals can help your partner see it in a different light and possibly become more open to the idea. However, it’s important to always make sure that any sexual activities are consensual and safe for everyone involved. Communication and mutual respect are key to a healthy sexual relationship.
How do you spank?
It’s important to start your game with a safe word, so the two of you know when to stop the action. Try something easy that can be said quickly and without forgetting—like, “car” or “tree”
Once you’ve come up with a safe word, it’s time to spank! Start with your hands. The palm of the hand is fleshier, creates a thudded impact, and generates a loud noise. Impacting with the fingers creates more of a sting and can be used to tap different regions of the butt.
Also, before you go to spank, take note of how big your hand is, a bigger hand might have a heavier impact than a smaller hand. The spanking should start out soft and intensify at the request of the receiver.
Rubbing the location of impact after a few spanks is a good way to extend the session and monitor bruising. It’s highly important to be aware of the color changes of the skin as blood rushes to the place of impact.
Where should you spank?
There are different zones of the butt you want to spank: The top, the sides, the underside of your cheeks, and the middle. It’s a good practice to start spanking from the bottom because it sends vibrations into the genitals that can bring more stimulation and lubrication.
And if your partner isn‘t down?
If you still want to explore spanking on your own, there are various positions and techniques you can try. One option is to use your free hand to spank your own buttocks while also stimulating your genitals. You can also experiment with different positions, such as standing and bending at the waist to access both your buttocks and genitals simultaneously. If you’re interested in using toys for spanking, it’s important to start with lighter implements, such as a hand or a padded paddle, before moving on to harder objects. Always be mindful of your own limits and listen to your body’s signals to avoid causing injury. Remember, sexual exploration should always be safe, consensual, and enjoyable for all parties involved.